Who are you? What are your values? What is your purpose in life? Can you answer these questions on the spot without asking for time to phone a friend or ask the audience? If your response is “Not yet”, congratulations! You’re at an amazing phase of life. It’s really an amazing time in life when you’re discovering new things about yourself, making mistakes and learning from them. It is an exciting time, or at least,should be. The problem is, if you’re like me, you’re being too hard on yourself and wondering why everyone knows what they’re doing except you.
Being at this stage of life is like starting on a fresh slate. And it has nothing to do with age, trust me. It helps you to be positive and have a truck load of enthusiasm and excitement. You will agree that these two are important to make the best of life.
As you navigate important decisions and unearth the treasures in you, you will face decisions- some simple, others tough. This will reveal more about your values and belief system. You may be surprised at what you find.
For instance,it is commonly said that money doesn’t change people; it only reveals their character. Let’s say you discover what you completely love to do, you write a program or develop some software that is so brilliant and you suddenly hit a jackpot. Everyone is talking about you, you’re making all the money and all of a sudden, every girl out there wants to be like you.
And then…you stop talking to your old friends.
You don’t want to spend so much time at home with your parents and siblings in that crummy old apartment.
That guy you used to like suddenly becomes too poor for you.
Or you’re too busy to pray or spend time with God.
This is just a random instance but think with me. Maybe you’ve never exhibited such snobbish tendencies before. Then you take a real deep look at yourself or someone does it to you and confronts you about how you’ve changed. What would you do, then?
You may feel really ashamed that you’ve become the exact kind of person you thought you’d never be. This is not new. It happens all the time.
Going back to my initial question, what are your values, who really are you?
Take time to think about this. Politely request your friends and family to tell you their opinions of you. Analyze it and do a review for yourself. Think about what rings true or what doesn’t align. Many of us don’t take enough time to think about ourselves.
We are so busy wrapping our lives around others- friends, family and even strangers, that we have no real grasp of our inner consciousness. Be in the moment, know yourself!
Your values define you. So what are they?